Your circumstances Don’t dictate your success (so much as your surroundings).

25 Jun

Your circumstances DO NOT dictate your success- so much as your surroundings.

So I’ve been kicking this topic around upstairs for a while. And it seems to be a lesson that we all have had but seem to forget.

-Success is a given- when we follow certain rules. The situation that sinks a vast majority is they prefer their own rules. I have had two mentors in recent years. And both have said a lot of similar things.

-Both said my businesses were a numbers game.
-Both said it wasn’t always what I said but how it was said and the posture from which it was stated.

-Now the first statement is true even if you’re a lawyer. In that example you have to get a majority of twelve to concur to reach your verdict. And to reach partner you usually have to add to that task to the one of billing a healthy amount of hours. Its always a numbers game people. Sales. Art. Anything. Even Picasso and Davinci wouldn’t be valuable if not for the number of works they did. In their respective cases the works are limited. And since there is a smaller pool of work the value is greater. In car sales you have to create a vast amount of sales, so here your quantity has to rise exponentially to get to the top. Get the gist?

-My mentors were big on what you said, how you said it and keeping cool. Now that doesn’t mean you are the Fonz or you never show emotions. Wrong. Money comes with math and emotions. And that’s a big point but let’s examine the former points. In business a lot of people fail for using their exuberance incorrectly. You have to say the right thing. Not be right. Your venture may be amazing and makes millionaires daily. Your product might cure cancer- but if people feel you are selling crap- they won’t buy it.
-Saying the right thing at the right moment comes with practice and training. This indirectly relates to the numbers game as well. The more you approach people the more you will refine your game. Also you have to realize what statements and platitudes sound false when coming from you. If you declare you’re a boss, or you’re rich and mom is your landlord- they aren’t buying it. So learn the methods that work. Speak to what appeals to each person individually. Solve THEIR problems. Coach THEM. When you are relatable and believable, the people will follow. And to the last point- don’t lose your cool when you are rejected. Its tacky. Its pointless. And you never know who is watching. Your next partner, sale, or friend is where you weren’t looking so stay with your A game.

-My final point is this: I covered the rules you must follow. And they are simple. But the bigger point is you won’t win if you aren’t in a circumference of winners. A lot of us love our friends and family. We revere people who wish us bad. We spend time with people who can’t stand any success we may have. And that’s normal. And will aways happen if you don’t make a choice. When you run with losers you are one. When you run with sheep you will be sheared. More simply and less rude- When you run with workers you Can’t be a Boss. Your friends, like my friends, are cool. And they have been their for us. Yet if they mock or simply don’t support your vision then why are you spending time with them? Some of the people we love the most will be the biggest roadblocks. And as that is the hard reality I ask what will you do? I don’t ask that we become modern day Judas’. But I will insist we put to the side those who impede our greatness. When you play small we all lose. You are not here to serve only you. We all have integral rolls to play. If your friends spend all of your time together trying to stop your progress- they may not be your friends. They may also simply not understand you. In either case it is you who loses so it is you who must guard your future. People whom I love, I’ve had to be cast aside. I love them and in a pinch I’m there. However, in day to day life I’m not with them. I only surround myself with winners. The people I read, talk to, and work with are those whose goals either mirror mine or who have surpassed mine. This one simple shift I believe can change our lives.
It is akin to the guy who always dates rebound chicks. He has someone to occupy his time but no one to BUILD WITH. Life and Business are both team sports. So who will you choose for your team?


“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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